“I believe that every single event in life happens in an opportunity to choose love over fear.” – Oprah Winfrey
Sometimes it hurts. Sometimes it gets too much. Sometimes it feels like all you’re doing is saying the wrong things, making mistakes and placing judgments.
In those moments of despair, frustration, and stumble and fall – it’s easy to get down on yourself. To beat yourself to the ground. To pour salt in open wounds. To blame, throw punches and call yourself names.
Let’s face it.
It’s easy to love yourself when you’re being adored and cared for. It’s easy to love yourself when you say and do the right things. It’s easy to love yourself when you’re making progress and moving forward.
But, not so easy when things aren’t going as planned. When things fall apart. When you get rejected. When you let yourself down. When you let others down. When you aren’t showing up to the best of your capability.
It’s those moments, when everything seems dark and scary, that you’re faced with a choice:
The choose love or to choose fear.
When you blame yourself, you choose fear.
When you get down on yourself, you choose fear.
When you call yourself names and punish yourself, you choose fear.
Most of us choose fear by default. Without even thinking about it we’re there to criticize, blame and complain. To kick ourselves when we’re already laying down.
But, it’s in those moments, the moments when you feel like you least deserve love that you most need it.
So, when you struggle the most to love yourself – choose to love yourself even more.
When you’re feeling lonely and sad, choose to love yourself.
When you’re feeling shameful and embarrassed, choose to love yourself.
When you’re feeling resentful and judgmental, choose to love yourself.
For better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health – choose to love yourself. No matter how much you screw up. No matter how big your mistakes are. No matter how many chocolate chip cookies you eat or how much alcohol you drink. Choose to love yourself unconditionally.
Love yourself, not just because it feels better, but because you’re setting an example.
Love yourself, not just because you deserve it, but because you’re showing others how it’s done.
Love yourself, not just because it’s the right choice, but because it fuels faith, not fear, in a world that desperately depends on it.
Show up, be there and demonstrate love without conditions. Choose love like your life depends on it, because it does.
Photo cred: Sofie Stenmark, Model: Maria Stenvinkel